It's fine. I have difficulty determining when someone is joking, mocking, or being serious. I commented that I wasn't sure so that if you were joking or mocking me you wouldn't be confused by the fact that I answered you seriously.
In answer to your questions here ... every woman is different...
As a female and pan-sexual, I generally like my lesbian scenes to be more sensual and intimate with a focus on feelings and sensation over actions. Its a bit more about kissing and touching and building physical and mental joy at the same time. Since in many cases both partners aren't receiving...