Do you find it a turn on for the husband to dress up his wife in sexy lingerie so she can fuck another man?
I personally don't see the appeal to cucking, but many people on this site seems to. So you're going to appeal to an audience already with this.
Thank you for your response. I get the cucking part, but I am more into just sharing my wife because I cannot fulfill all of her fantasies. No man can. Guys need to try to understand that. I cannot fulfill my wife's BBC fantasy, Lesbian fantasy, big cock fantasy, threescore fantasies. But I can be a part of helping her make that happen. Togetherness without jealousy because we have unconditional love.
Well, no one really can. No one can fullfill all her fantasies or yours for the matter. No single person can fulfill all the possible fantasies of another. Besides, they are just fantasies, they are not meant to be fulfilled, and in most cases they are best not to. Desires, those are the ones you may want to get fullfilled. In general, I really like cheating and even some kind of cucking/ntr stories to a degree, but have no real attraction towards husbands pimping their wives or the other way around.
You, sir, are my kind of man. This is the kind of perspective I've been focusing on in my story Secret Affairs. It's also something that my ex and I tried, and sadly failed, to incorporate in our marriage. Some of the characters in my story are even based on people from that part of my life. I'm in a much healthier monogamous relationship now, but sometimes I miss it. That's partly why I write about it.
That's why I write about it too. We are humans after all. Monogamy can work, if both partners want that. But, human females are genetically wired to breed and search out strong mates to breed them. Human males are genetically wired to breed and spread their seed out to as many females as possible. All you have to do is look at how many people get divorced. Neary every divorce is because of cheating. Again, from our predisposition to breed. Now all that Yada, Yada, Yada aside, I have always been fascinated with having a beautiful partner who has a bull to satisfy her sexual needs. An alpha bull that gives me no choice, he just takes her and she happily allows it. As I have gotten older, Andrea's European background and philosophy has rubbed off on me as she has opened my mind. When I get a moment I will start reading your story Secret Affairs and I hope you read mine, Devotion. Message me any time, you can DM me if you like.
Likewise, you can DM me too if you like. I love getting messages from other users on this site. Can you provide a link to your story? I'm very interested in reading it. EDIT: Never mind about the link. I found it.
I am going very off-topic but I enjoy evolutionary biology and can't ignore something so blatantly wrong Evidence shows that humans are genetically inclined towards monogamy. We are not strictly monogamous like some other species but we are mostly monogamous and cultural norms exist because they are a continuation of our genetics, not because they appeared out of thin air when everyone was mating with everyone. In nature, when species are polygamous we see much more prominent sexual dimorphism, especially in size difference and natural weapons like horns.
From a scientific standpoint, I think this makes more sense. There's no denying though that humans have strong urges and behaviors that run counter to monogamy. I think the unscientific answer is we're complicated. We often hunger after what we can't or shouldn't have, and that applies to sexual partners as much as it does anything else. Maybe even more so. Denying that hunger can be just as self-destructive as embracing it. I believe the key is recognizing this contradiction in our nature and always be open and respectful with our partner(s) in how we deal with it.
Human sexuality is complex and hard to understand. It is a weird mix of our instincts, our hormonal composition, our cultural upbringing, our life experience, etc. I am just saying that one shouldn't simplify our instincts to - "Our inner animal wants to fuck every female\perfect male." It just isn't true. It is a very outdated and simplified view. We evolved as social species. As species, we are monogamous with some tendencies to polygyny. Most likely, our evolutionary direction is from polygyny to monogamy and we didn't quite reach monogamy before culture developed and everything became way more complicated Our anatomy is anatomy of monogamous species: small testicles, concealed ovulation, limited sexual dimorphism. Other great apes are different. Most mammals are different
Andrea is Western European and has a completely different philosophy than most Americans. To her, nudity is nothing. She goes to saunas in Europe naked. You can't do that in the states. One thing she taught me was to seperate love from sex. I used to get so jealous, but she taught me not to be. She has her "girlfriends" she plays with at times, plus her "bull". Those are purely for sexual enjoyment. She comes home to daddy for love and support. It's a whole different philosophy.
I don't disagree with you at all. I was simply trying to point out that for a lot of people monogamy is hard to do. I was just bringing up some of our primal traits.
I think you are mixing a few things there. I'm European, deal we are not nearly as prudish as you guys but there's no such thing as an "European background and phylosopy" on most things, and there isn't one especially on nudity. That is of course if you don't mean condoning a nipple showing on TV during prime time or other silly things like that. There are countries were both sexes saunas are a thing, countries with years long tradition of naturism, countries where relatioships are generally more open, but all these things hardly happen all at the same in one place, and surely they do not happen in the majority of the European countries. I know that from across the ocean we may look exotic and queer and you are tempeted paint all of us with the same brush, but each country in Europe has its own very strong cultural tradition. If there's something we share in fact, it's precisely being a little more open minded towards other's traditions. But even this can't be easily generalized. TL;DR Don't expect someone to accept nudity like it's nothing on the basis he/she comes from Europe. Don't expect someone to accept open realtionship like the norm because he/she comes from Europe. Don't go telling around 'Europeans are like this, Europeans are like that...", please.
I'm from Europe and feel like I've been missing out on all this nudity and free sex which must be around everywhere. I should get out more! but really there is quite a huge variance on attitudes / open-ness towards nudity and casual sex depending on region due to the variety of religious and cultural beliefs. I'm thinking qq must be describing somewhere northern / scandinavian which tends to be a bit more open-minded towards nudity and that sort of thing. However I cant think of anywhere that would see multiple sexual partners as the norm. As long as you're both happy in whatever shape your relationship is though I'm happy for you. However, are you sure your Andrea isn't playing the European card just to get away with some questionable behavior?
Thank you for your thoughts. Andrea is my everything. She is very open and loves to live life. We have had many conversations where over time she taught me a very important lesson. She taught me to seperate love from sex. Sex and live can be one in the same and they can be different. As a man, I know I alone cannot fulfill all of her needs and desires. For example I could never give her a girl on girl experience. I could never give her a threescore by myself. I could never give her a big juicy well hung black cock because I am white. So over time, she showed me that sex with others is great, as long as we all agree and it goes both ways. Northwest Germany
