It's fine. I have difficulty determining when someone is joking, mocking, or being serious. I commented that I wasn't sure so that if you were joking or mocking me you wouldn't be confused by the fact that I answered you seriously.
In answer to your questions here ... every woman is different. Usually women want to read about the things they themselves like or would like to do. I imagine its much the same for men.
When it comes to of toys ... I personally like penetration so I like reading about toys and fingers being put in places. Its an important part of sexual stimulation for me.
My girlfriend does not like penetration so she would be less interested in anything involving penetration whether it is toys or not. So, in that case, toys that were more focused on clitoral stimulation like the little vibrating eggs would be good for her, but otherwise.... no.
In terms of general activities ... lots of kissing, looking into each others eyes or observing reactions, touching the body, running fingers through the hair, kissing the body, clitoral stimulation with fingers and mouth, etc. Some women's breasts are more sensitive than others so some women enjoy it more than others.
Generally different partners perform different actions or its different when they do it. Like dance partners, one leads and one follows ... both may perform the same steps, but its still different.
Lets try an example ... we'll call our females lydia and mina.
Both women are in a bathtub. Lydia is sitting in the tub with her legs extended and her back against the back of the tub. Mina is sitting in the tub between Lydia's legs leaning back against her, resting her head on Lydia's shoulder. Lydia looks down at Mina and admires how lovely she looks, kissing her neck and ears, taking a soapy hand and running it over Mina's shoulders and arms as if to wash her, but slowly her hand gets more bold and begins running over Mina's breasts massaging them, making Mina moan.
All the while Lydia is watching Mina's reaction, kissing her and soothing her and exciting her, her interest is to make Mina feel good but there is an edge to it ... she's getting off on being in charge ... on initiating and taking her lover there, of knowing that Mina's pleasure is in the palm of her hand.
As the scene goes on, Lydia reaches down between Mina's legs and begins to rub her pussy, gently at first, but picking up the pace as Mina moans. Lydia is whispering words in her ears, telling her how beautiful she is and she loves to touch her, kissing her neck and holding Mina against her as the sexual tension builds, stimulating not just her pussy but her whole body with hugs and kisses and words, maybe she puts her fingers inside Mina ... maybe she grabs a toy of some kind ... the passion builds until finally Mina has her release.
Lydia was always in charge. Always in control. Taking her lover there. Building it up slowly, like foreplay, making her feel wanted and special and pleasured until her release. Seeing her lover explode fills her with pride in her work and a joy at taking care of her lover much like a teacher or leader might feel when they've guided a prize student to success.
That could be the end of the scene ... women don't ALWAYS reciprocate with each other ... in fact, my experience is that they often don't. Their is a huge amount of emotional and mental pleasure for the person doing the act as much as for the person being stimulated so reciprocation is often not necessary.
but lets say we want to keep going and have Mina return the favor ... so she turns around in the bath and gets on all fours facing Lydia ... a smile on her face as she passionately kisses Lydia ... pushing her back against the tub in a tangled embrace as their soapy wet bodies slide against each other ... while they kiss both of them have wandering hands, sliding up and down each others bodies, pulling each other tight, their whole embrace just as emotional as it is physical ...
Mina breaks the kiss and moves back ... Lydia watching her, curious what she's going to do ... (my inclination at this point is that Mina would probably move to eat out Lydia, but just to demonstrate how they can do the same things differently we'll stick with fingers ) ... Mina runs her fingers down Lydia's chest, kissing down the trail her fingers leave, and then looks up at Lydia and smiles as she dips her hand below the water and presses her fingers against Lydia's pussy ...
Unlike Lydia, Mina is not getting off on being in charge or taking her lover to release, but in service ... in being a good girlfriend and lover ... she wants to show Lydia she's thankful and that she loves her ... it is almost an act of worship as Mina works her fingers into Lydia's pussy, watching her face and listening to her moans, paying attention to how she reacts to each touch, a sigh of pleasure or a wince of discomfort causing her to adjust how she uses her fingers, sometimes kissing Lydia, but always focused on being close to her and giving her pleasure. When Lydia finally arches her back with release, Mina feels a wash of pleasure at having been a good girlfriend - like a schoolgirl getting straight A's on her report card.
They both end up laying together in the tub, bodies wrapped in a tight embrace, kissing and snuggling and holding each other, simply bathing in the connection and pleasure they just shared together.
(this could also be just the beginning ... at this point the water is probably cold at this point but maybe they move out of the bath to the bathroom floor ... so aroused and passionate for each other they can't make it to the bedroom ... or maybe they make their way to the bedroom ... not caring they are getting water everywhere ... stumbling into walls and doors as they try to walk and kiss and touch each other all at the same time ... some laughter and moans accompany them ... until they ravenously fall to the bed ... Lydia taking charge again ... maybe pushing Mina back onto the bed and going between her legs ... determined to make Mina squeal and cum with her mouth ... or laying back herself and pulling Mina's face between her legs ... also, a good place in the story for grabbing toys off the night stand. etc. )
So there you go ... obviously this is poor writing and definitely only a very rough concept ... but i was more interested in setting the scene and talking about what was going on with the characters as a way of expressing the ideas I was talking about ...
Here is the image that inspired the scene ... you can almost see the emotions and intimacy in the image ... it makes me tingle to look at it ...
https://www.sex.com/pin/59765180-sexy-lesbians-in-the-tub/