The main site is not the problem, it's fine there. Sorry for not being precise, it's only the forums that bother me. Yeah, well, my background in web developement is non-existant. Took me a while to figure out the last request I had. Thanks again for that btw! [EDIT: But we are in the wrong thread for this discussion, should rather move to feedback/suggestions.]
I'll vote for the suggestion if you make it! Back on topic: My writing chapters goes in random bursts, nothing for weeks, then ten or twelve chapters in one day.
Oh, is wish I didn't read that. I am so tempted now. One of the most enjoyable things on chyoa, but it is so hard to find someone that you can be that in sync with.
* A most disturbing confession brought about by a new revelation: Every single sex scene I have ever written always revolves around a competition theme. Yes, it is a kink of mine, but it seems like I am incapable or writing anything else. I hate to think what a psychiatrist would say about this.
I only just realized it. It explains why I get into such a rut with sex scenes, they are all the same.
Maybe, try setting up and writing one that is about the partners cooperating to achieve some kind of sex-related external goal, like struggling to keep the coitus going for a full hour...?
Not a bad idea. But again the problem isn't the setup. I easily can create a lot of variety when it comes to that. But once the sex starts I slip into the love making being some sort of competition. Currently, I am trying to add a sub-branch to the sex scene with Catwoman that is intentionally not competitive, which I find very boring.
Confession: - Not a furry but was really committed to the cat-women lesbian scene the fans wanted, and disappointed when it didn't get the likes for a follow-up Not a Confession: Without getting into the psychology of it ("Why do you feel the need for competitiveness?"), one of the difficulties of sex scenes is often the lack of a particular struggle. The individuals involved are usually in cooperation to get off, usually with the primary or secondary goal of making their partner feel good as well. So if you have difficulty writing a non-competitive scene, maybe you should start small and work on a scene where the focus of the competition is different - like a one party who is determined to make their partner orgasm first, or who is getting anal sex for the first time and is determined to hang on for the other's sake no matter how weird/uncomfortable it is getting reamed for the first time. If they are competing with themselves and their own limitations rather with their partner, or some other lover...well, just a suggestion.
Thank you for the advice and feel free to go pop-psychologist anytime. What you describe I can do. Within the competitive framework I can have a great deal of variety, ranging from two lovers engaging in play, to two rivals trying to out do each other, to things that are much more dark and taboo. It was just a revelation that I default to this theme when writing erotica. To be blunt, I don't see real sex like this, but I guess erotica is a means by which I express this much more deep seated kink then I realized I have.
I'd have to read them again with an eye toward things. I will say that sex is a matter of communication as well as power - adversarial relationships tend to focus on two strong-willed individuals, each trying to get what they want and unwilling to just come out and say it or make compromise with it - they have to go through the dance first, like scorpions fighting. I would suspect that you dislike trying to write a submissive character; you like active participation, but not bimbos or sluts, and docile or cold characters might be more difficult for you to grasp their mindset and write from their perspective.
I love fonts that have numbers with ascenders and descenders. Maybe it's because I imprinted upon the World Almanac as a youngster, back when they did the year on the cover that way.
Mmmmmm, eighties book cover design. I used to try and render that sort of lettering by hand as a kid.
First, it is very comic that this forum actually turned into a confession for me. This is very funny. Second, as always, thank you for your thoughts. You are generally right. I love intelligent, strong willed characters. I can't imagine trying to write a story where the lead characters were idiots. Since I have the BDSM kink, it makes sense that I enjoy the idea of two lovers seeking to have domination, with one finally surrendering, though secretly enjoying it. Those sex scenes, that almost play out like a battle, come the easiest for me to write. I would like to push myself to write more non-competitive sex scenes, however, words like "conquest, opponent, defeated, surrender" quickly begin to slip in.
Quick bonus confession while I am here. * I LOVE it when I see a reader liking the chapters along a story thread then suddenly the likes stop at the hot and heavy sex scene. Perhaps they realized it wasn't their cup of tea, but I like to imagine the chapter...ahem..."got the job done" and they stopped reading for that reason.
You might try to write a scene where the competition has already happened, and one individual services the other, both getting off in their mutual roles. Confession: Always harder to write additional options on chapters that already have a sequel. Once tried to write an anti-size-queen story, and it felt really weird.
Okay, so many people have the idea that when it comes to sex "bigger is better" - boobs are awesome, so more boobs are more awesome, until you get characters with a chest fit for a herd of cows (to steal a phrase); and the male version of that is ridiculously huge cocks/balls...and of course, the genitalia of their partners is magically able to accommodate the equivalent of a baseball bat in their orifice-of-choice. That's size queen fiction. And there is a place for it. It can lead to cartoonishly bad anatomy, and biologically unpleasant acts like cervix bumping, cervix penetration, extreme gapes, cum inflation, all-the-way through or meet-in-the-middle...well, it's just cartoonish. Some people like that, fine, but it's not realistic. Size queens in real life might go for really big members and really big sex toys, but there's an upper limit to what the human body can handle, and past that you're looking at anal and vaginal tearing, prolapses, and other unpleasant and decidedly un-sexy things. And for the most part, people don't enjoy getting fisted up to the elbow, even in those rare individuals that can accomplish that kind of feat: human bodies just aren't designed for that. So...the idea of the anti-size-queen story was sort of an aggressive size doesn't matter approach. Less biggus dickus, more "let me show you how I can use this thing." But it's not exactly a lot to build a plot around, y'know?
