The main site is not the problem, it's fine there. Sorry for not being precise, it's only the forums that bother me.
Yeah, well, my background in web developement is non-existant. Took me a while to figure out the last request I had. Thanks again for that btw!
Oh, is wish I didn't read that. I am so tempted now.
One of the most enjoyable things on chyoa, but it is so hard to find someone that you can be that in sync with.
I know the feeling. I have the same problem with writing in the past tense.
I only just realized it. It explains why I get into such a rut with sex scenes, they are all the same.
Not a bad idea. But again the problem isn't the setup. I easily can create a lot of variety when it comes to that. But once the sex starts I slip into the love making being some sort of competition. Currently, I am trying to add a sub-branch to the sex scene with Catwoman that is intentionally not competitive, which I find very boring.
Without getting into the psychology of it ("Why do you feel the need for competitiveness?"), one of the difficulties of sex scenes is often the lack of a particular struggle. The individuals involved are usually in cooperation to get off, usually with the primary or secondary goal of making their partner feel good as well. So if you have difficulty writing a non-competitive scene, maybe you should start small and work on a scene where the focus of the competition is different - like a one party who is determined to make their partner orgasm first, or who is getting anal sex for the first time and is determined to hang on for the other's sake no matter how weird/uncomfortable it is getting reamed for the first time. If they are competing with themselves and their own limitations rather with their partner, or some other lover...well, just a suggestion.
Thank you for the advice and feel free to go pop-psychologist anytime. What you describe I can do. Within the competitive framework I can have a great deal of variety, ranging from two lovers engaging in play, to two rivals trying to out do each other, to things that are much more dark and taboo. It was just a revelation that I default to this theme when writing erotica. To be blunt, I don't see real sex like this, but I guess erotica is a means by which I express this much more deep seated kink then I realized I have.
I'd have to read them again with an eye toward things. I will say that sex is a matter of communication as well as power - adversarial relationships tend to focus on two strong-willed individuals, each trying to get what they want and unwilling to just come out and say it or make compromise with it - they have to go through the dance first, like scorpions fighting. I would suspect that you dislike trying to write a submissive character; you like active participation, but not bimbos or sluts, and docile or cold characters might be more difficult for you to grasp their mindset and write from their perspective.
Mmmmmm, eighties book cover design. I used to try and render that sort of lettering by hand as a kid.
First, it is very comic that this forum actually turned into a confession for me. This is very funny.
You might try to write a scene where the competition has already happened, and one individual services the other, both getting off in their mutual roles.
Confession, I have no idea what this is.
Okay, so many people have the idea that when it comes to sex "bigger is better" - boobs are awesome, so more boobs are more awesome, until you get characters with a chest fit for a herd of cows (to steal a phrase); and the male version of that is ridiculously huge cocks/balls...and of course, the genitalia of their partners is magically able to accommodate the equivalent of a baseball bat in their orifice-of-choice.
